“If I meet a guy who runs his ex down, he will never hear from me again” — Toke Makinwa
Nigerian media personality, Toke Makinwa opens up about relationship red flags she would never overlook, stating behaviours that would make a man “never hear from her again.”
The former OAP shared the insights during an interview with the notable UK-based content creator, Madame Joyce.
Makinwa revealed behaviours that, if spotted, would cause her to cut ties immediately.
“If I meet a guy that runs his ex down, he’s never going to hear from me again. If I meet a guy who talks about his ex consistently, he’s still not over her, and he’s not going to hear from me. If I meet a guy who makes comparisons to where he’s coming from, he’s never going to hear from me.” she stated.
Makinwa cautioned women to be wary of men who criticize their former partners, warning, “What he did to his ex, he can do times two to you.”
She explained that men often portray their exes as “crazy,” a tactic she believes is used to deflect their own role in the relationship’s downfall.
“Your vagina is not made of gold, what he did to his ex, he can do times two to you. While you’re with him, it’s easy for a guy to paint a picture saying ‘she was crazy.’ every girl is crazy in every guy’s book, if my exes talk about me to you, you’d think I’m the mad one because everyone would tell story. I always tell women that nigga going on about how crazy she is is the one that made her crazy,” she added.
Madame Joyce echoed this thought, calling the belief that certain situations “could never happen to us” a trap. Toke Makinwa shared that she no longer uses the phrase “it can never be me,” as life has shown her how easily people can face circumstances they never expected.
“I never say it can never be me because… life would catch you at 6pm that night,” she remarked, emphasizing the importance of empathy.
“We’re the greatest judges when it comes to other people, but when it’s our turn, we make a case.”
Her candid advice has resonated widely, with many viewers applauding her perspective on relationship dynamics and self-awareness.
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