A woman wonders if she is wrong for asking her friend not to come to her birthday dinner if she plans to bring her child.
The woman rented a private room with a bar at a restaurant and also hired a babysitter to care for her three-year-old child since it was an adults-only event.
However, her friend Missy said she would bring her five-year-old.
The woman shared the details on Reddit, saying she offered to pay her babysitter extra to watch Missy’s daughter, but she said no.
After a heated conversation between the two friends, the woman said it was best that she not come.
“I told Missy I can’t keep her from coming to the restaurant, but there’s no way we’re letting her in the private room. She is very hurt that we are leaving her out,” she wrote.
A woman rented a private room at a restaurant for her birthday and only adults were invited. But her friend said she wants to take her five-year-old son with her (stock image)
The main reason Missy doesn’t want anyone to babysit her daughter is because she would have been at daycare all day and doesn’t want her to be with a sitter at night.
The woman outlined that her friendship group will likely drink a lot of alcohol and is aware that Missy’s child is still young.
“Missy’s daughter is like many five-year-olds: she doesn’t sit still, wants to run everywhere,” she wrote.
‘Missy admits that she doesn’t often take her to restaurants because she doesn’t know how to behave. But I also know that Missy will just let her, because she is very lenient.
Missy then “had a fit” when another friend told her not to bring her daughter and said she would no longer be attending.
‘I said I completely understand. There are events that I missed because I don’t want to abandon my daughter and the group understands because we all have children,” the woman continued.
“I told Missy I’d like to play or have lunch with our kids again so we can hang out some more.”
The woman asked the Reddit forum if she is a bad friend because she doesn’t want a child at her birthday dinner.
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Hundreds shared their thoughts on the situation, saying she was “not a bad friend.”
“You offered reasonable solutions and she refused. When someone chooses a lifestyle, they have to deal with everything that comes with it. But they are not entitled to special treatment, especially when people with similar lifestyles have adapted,” one person noted.
‘She is not excluded. She excludes herself. These types of parents worry me. “For parents to get so upset because they’ve been told they can’t take their locker to a place inappropriate for children is just not right in my opinion,” another wrote.
A third said: ‘This is an adult meeting and you offered a generous solution by paying your babysitter extra to look after both children.’
“Not only that, but would you take a five-year-old to an adult party where there is alcohol and no other children?” asked another.
Someone else said: ‘I know it’s hard for some parents to understand, but I don’t care about your child. This event is for adults, and it is not kid friendly, so Missy gets to make a choice: stay home with the child OR come to the party without the child.”
“Nothing is more annoying than when someone brings their child to an adult meeting and lets the child run amok because they assume the entire group is going to watch the child so the parent can do whatever they want,” one person added .
