A woman has shared a furious tirade about her husband, describing the heated argument they had after he invited his mother on a two-week holiday as a couple without consulting her.
The anonymous woman took to Reddit to discuss her issues with her husband, admitting that she and her partner (whom she did not name) are “digital nomads” living in the US.
In a thread with the title Am I the asshole?The irritated woman described in detail the anger she felt when she discovered that her mother-in-law would be joining them on their trip.
She explained that she was “completely left out of the decision,” adding that as a “married couple” they should have talked about it together.
The furious woman questioned whether it was her fault for raising her concerns and said her husband had even threatened divorce if she “didn’t accept his mother”.
A woman has shared a furious rant about her husband, detailing the heated argument they got into after he invited his mother on a romantic date without consulting her (stock image)
The post was titled, ‘Am I the asshole for getting into a fight with my husband after he booked tickets for his mother to travel with us for two weeks without asking me first?’
She explained that she and her husband loved to travel the world.
“My husband and I live in the United States, but we are digital nomads and love to travel abroad for six months. Last year we traveled to Thailand and this year we are in Brazil exploring the northeast and then heading south.
“We are Brazilians, so our whole family lives in this country,” the woman said, noting that they were planning to travel around Brazil for a romantic getaway.
However, their romantic trip was interrupted when her husband announced that his mother would be staying with them for two weeks.
She explained: ‘We are doing different periods in different cities. We have already done Fortaleza (one month), and now we are doing São Luiz (10 days), then Maceió (two weeks), then other cities in the south and then we will go our separate ways to be in our home city for two months. It is just me, him and our baby dog, enjoying our wonderful time as a couple.
‘But last night at dinner I discovered that he and his mother had decided THEMSELVES that she would make the entire two-week trip to Maceió.
‘Two weeks, with my mother-in-law, in a tiny apartment. There’s no way back, the decision has been made, flights booked and everything.
The anonymous woman took to Reddit to vent her issues with her husband, admitting that she and her husband — whom she did not name — were “digital nomads” living in the US
‘Now I understand that he and his mother live in different countries and they miss each other… but he will be spending TWO MONTHS with her in his hometown at the end of the trip, so that will be plenty of time to enjoy her company.’
The anonymous wife noted that she was angry that her husband had not consulted her first. She felt that they should have talked about it before he bought the tickets.
She added, “My point is, I was completely left out of the decision. I believe that as a married couple, you have to talk to each other before you make these kinds of decisions. Maybe you can say, ‘Honey, is it okay if I take my mom to Maceió? For the whole two weeks?’”
The Reddit user noted that she would have been fine with her husband’s mother coming over for a week, but she was hurt that he didn’t even think to ask her opinion.
She added: ‘This is a huge disrespect to me because it shows that my opinion doesn’t matter and he does what he wants regardless of what I think and how I feel. As if I just have to swallow it and accept it.’
At the end of her post, she revealed that their feud took a shocking turn when she confronted her husband about it. He even threatened divorce if she didn’t accept his mother joining them.
She added: ‘So this is what happened when I found out: I immediately got into an argument with him at dinner (I was very discreet) where I was clearly angry. I told him how upset and offended I was that I had been completely left out of the decision.
People online flooded the comments section and rushed to the woman’s defense as she criticized her husband
‘He was extremely offended that I wasn’t 100 percent happy and excited about his mother spending the two weeks with us (he thinks I should be, even though it was a surprise to me) and he even went so far as to literally take off his wedding ring to show: ‘You either accept my mother or we go our separate ways.’
‘Later after dinner he even said things like “if you and I get divorced we’ll share Penny (our dog).” LIKE???!!!! Excuse me sir?!’
The anonymous woman then wondered if she was an “asshole” for stirring up a debate about the situation.
People on the internet jumped on the comments and came to the woman’s defense while slamming her husband.
Someone said, “It sounds to me like he’s going to extremes to get her to back off. This is incredibly manipulative. And there IS “backing off.” They may lose money, but this isn’t over yet. It may be for their marriage. This guy has zero respect for OP and that’s a real relationship killer.”
Someone else added: ‘Not the asshole. This guy is an asshole. Firstly, because he didn’t ask you if his mother could travel with him and secondly, because of his over the top, stupid, and petty theatrics.
“Take off his wedding ring? Give you ultimatums? Ask about joint custody of your dog? Girl, fuck that noise. I would not travel with them. This is beyond petty, cruel, and controlling. He tells you to do whatever he wants, no questions asked, or he’ll divorce you. This is not a nice person. Fuck him and his mother. I would change my ticket and go back home. This is just too much disrespect for me.”
Another user wrote: ‘If you can, keep the dog. Leave the man alone.’
“Give him the divorce he wants. The disrespect is disgusting. Not the asshole,” someone else added.
One user commented: ‘Call his bluff. Get those divorce papers. He doesn’t value you or your marriage if he’s going to use it as a bargaining chip.’