A woman is furious because her husband stopped cleaning the house immediately after they got married. She now wants a divorce.
The couple, who have been together for four years, have never had a problem with cleaning, and they both do their share of the chores.
“Everything changed after the wedding and I can’t tell you why,” he said.“All of a sudden he became a sloppy guy… I don’t know anymore,” his wife wrote on Reddit.
‘In protest, I stopped all my household chores a month after our marriage and now I live in complete and utter filth.
‘I’m rarely home because of the mess. I live with my sister part time now and he doesn’t care, I’ve had several breakdowns this month, I’m completely over it.’
The woman explained that it wasn’t so much a mess, but rather wet food in the sink, bugs, takeout everywhere, trash not taken out, puddles, crumbs, dirty laundry, and piles of dishes.
“A few hours ago I told him that if he doesn’t clean up tonight, I’m going to divorce him tomorrow. He said I’m an asshole and that cleaning is no longer his job,” she said.
“I almost burst a blood vessel – we haven’t made a decision about that.”
A woman files for divorce after her husband refused to clean up after they got married
While her mother-in-law urged her not to ruin the marriage, thousands of people unanimously criticized the husband’s behavior and told the American woman that it was definitely time to leave him.
People couldn’t decide what was worse: the mess itself or the husband’s attitude.
“The behavior is completely unacceptable. It’s one thing to have different cleaning standards, but it’s another thing to actively refuse to contribute to a shared living space. The level of filth you describe is unsanitary and disrespectful,” said one woman.
“The part where he says he doesn’t have to clean anymore now that he’s married is extra annoying. He really believes this and will never change,” said another.
“He didn’t tell me and I wanted to punch him in the jaw,” added another.
People were outraged by the husband’s actions, saying that men who often want a traditional wife who only cooks, cleans and takes care of the children, often expect her to have a job as well.
“They want a traditional housewife/homemaker, but with a modern woman’s salary,” one woman said.
“I come from a culture that is much more traditional than American culture and these guys would have a heart attack if they knew what was expected of them as traditional husbands,” one man added.
Some felt that it was not uncommon for men to change their habits after marriage.
“Often people hide who they really are until they get married, and then the mask falls. He fooled you, and I’m sorry that happened,” one man wrote.
“My ex-husband changed right after marriage too. I wasted years trying to work through things. Run away now if you can,” one woman advised.
